We are pulled in so many different directions, so why is it that when we have our mum hat on that many mums doubt themselves on a grand scale?
Having a lack of self confidence of a low self esteem can affect nearly all areas of your life.
It can affect you while out with friends, while giving doing facebook live and while meeting new people, to name a few. Confidence issues can be brought about for many different reasons and over time they become so commonplace that we just expect them to happen.
If you are dealing with confidence issues at the moment you will understand just how it can affect your life and sometimes even stop you from doing things that you really want to.
It has been a decade since I had my first child and I recall many occasions in that time where I doubted that I could help anybody. How in the world could I return to my coaching business when I don’t even know if I’m doing the right things for myself half the time?
It takes a courageous person to fight back against the niggles of self-doubt.
Stopping the second-guessing and actually take those first steps to getting what you want, whether it’s taking a new class, launching an idea-to-business stage or re-entering the social world … if you can take that first step, you’re well on your way!
And then, once you’ve done that and the dust settles, you work out what comes next. And usually during this period the doubt starts to sneak back in. You go on the merry-go-round of dealign with it, squashing it down again and you make yourself take the next step.
The only way is forward, regardless of that annoying little voice in your head.
That little voice might be saying things like:
It’s not the right time.
You don’t have enough money.
Where are you going to find the time.
You should be focusing on your family.
You don’t have the skills.
It’s been too long since you were in the work force.
I’ll share a secret with you … You will never know until you have a go!
You don’t know who’s out there watching you, who’s cheering you on, and looking up to you.
You never know who may consider you to be their inspiration.
So sweet mumma, stop doubting and believe in yourself … because somebody out there believes in you. I believe in you.
Here are a few tips that I share with my clients to help them regain their confidence.
1. Surround yourself with positivity
Positive, enthusiastic and passionate people are contagious. Surround yourself with them and allow their confidence to brush off on you. By being around positive people we learn how they confidently deal with things in their life that would throw us off course. (If you can’t physically be around people, podcasts are a great way to start!)
2. Create a new image
If you were to create a new image, or to up the anty on your current one, what oozes confidence? Would you feel renewed with new clothes, a new hairstyle, or changing your posture? I am not saying there is anything wrong with you, what we are doing here is flipping a switch, retraining ourselves so when you have this new image you can act up to it with confidence and allow the new you to be born. Think of it as YouVersion2 with how you want to act, be seen, respond. If I was to meet you in 5 years time – would this be her?
3. Watch what you say to yourself
We all talk to ourselves as we think about things. We say things like, ‘Oh I can’t afford that!’ This type of inner talk closes our mind to the possibilities. Instead saying something like, ‘What would it take to create that in my life?’ Turning a solution based statement into a questions opens up our energy and our ability to receive what is shown to us.
4. Make a change
If you find that an element of your life is causing you to lack confidence – change it! Remember though that you set the limit on what is possible, so open up your mind and consciously decide what you can do and trust your intuitive response.
I’d love you to also take on board, sometimes things ping and blow up everywhere and just happen; and there’s other times where it seems to go quiet and feels like it takes forever.
When it goes quiet, acknowledge that too. that’s okay. It’s like the calm before the storm but in a good way.
If you have times in your life and in your business and whatever you’re creating; if you have these moments where everything goes quiet and you’re – what next?
You can ask – what is this?
Oftentimes it the moment before the fireworks start. Where everybody’s sitting and waiting for the next thing, don’t make yourself wrong.
What are you actually creating that you’re not acknowledging?
When we start asking questions, the universe starts to rearrange the molecules, all the quantum entanglements and all of the things start to move, to change towards what you’re asking for.
Part of that is being aware that sometimes it is instant and sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it actually takes a little bit to rearrange everything to work for you.
If you need support in flipping self doubt to self confidence, and navigating what’s happening as you work through this stage, let’s have a Clarity Call and we’ll work out a game plan together.
To Your Success
Cheers
Kate 🌷